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My daughter watches a show each morning while I do my workout. I like to warn her ahead of time that when I’m getting close to the end of my workout she has only a few more minutes to watch her show. 

Most days when I tell her it is time to turn it off, she starts to cry or scream. She wants to keep watching. 

I have also grown more irritated when she does this. I feel like she knows the drill. When I am done working out, we turn off the device and move on to the next part of our day. 

As I was finishing up my workout I was mentally preparing myself for her to get upset when I would ask her to turn off the show. 

Become Present

Before I walked over to tell her to turn it off, a thought came to mind. “Ask her about the show she is watching.”

I walked over to her and leaned down, wrapped my arm around her waist and asked about the show. I looked at her and smiled as she said, “I like this show.” She smiled at me and we talked about the interesting show she liked. 

I hugged her and told her that I liked that she likes a show that keeps her engaged and teaches her new things. I could see how excited she was to talk about it. It felt great to see her light up over something that she was learning on a show.

I then looked at her and told her that we would need to put the show away in a couple of minutes. 

She quickly said, “Ok mom.” Just a minute later she handed me that device and told me she was done. 

I was so surprised and so proud of her. I thanked her for remembering and gave her a hug and kiss. 

We then proceeded to make breakfast. 

I was smiling from ear to ear for the next hour. I was very proud of her and myself for handling the situation differently this time.

I could feel the spirit giving me a high five. I didn’t need to get irritated and my daughter responded with more ease.

(Now, it’s applying this daily, Haha)

But, seriously.

Contribute in Small Ways

I started thinking about how I want to contribute as a mother in small situations like this. 

When we are in a hurry or even wanting our children to listen to the parent, are we taking the time to listen to them or understand them?

I feel like I struggle with this at times. 

I’m wanting to get dinner on the table. I’m wanting to teach preschool to my daughter, run errands, finish my tasks during the day.

Am I making time to be a present mother? Am I making time to look into my child’s eyes and listen to their wants, interests, something that is bothering them, something that excites them?

This experience was a great reminder of how I can slow down a little bit and remember the importance of that little child I have. 

It’s good to slow down.

The moment we are in is a great moment to make great.

I want to contribute greatly. I know at times I will slip up. I will hurry through lessons or teaching moments. 

I’m continually wanting to grow and learn how to be better at these things.

I just desire to keep growing from this experience. I desire to contribute my listening ear, a smile, a hug and kiss, a present at the moment Mother. 

I knew my thoughts came from the spirit when communicating with my daughter. It was an opportunity to pause, think about how to handle the situation, and go about it the best way I can. 

Contribute YOUR Best Self!

I felt the spirit with me. I felt so good to contribute my best self as a mother. 

As a mother I am best contributing when I am expressing my thoughts and desires with love and understanding. 

If I can contribute some part of myself in this lifetime it is how I want to grow into a loving person and mother. 

Because, being a mother is one of the greatest contributions!!

About Author

My name is Brianna Marshall. I was born in Dayton, Ohio into a Air Force family. We moved to Colorado Springs, CO when I was 5 years old and lived there till I moved off to College to Orem, Utah in 2007. I was raised into The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints. I'm still actively practicing the same faith today. I graduated from Utah Valley University with a Bachelors in Communications. I was married to my husband Dom in 2010 in the San Diego Temple. Dom and I have two children, one a boy, named Ronen, and a girl, named Ryen. I have been in and out of teaching physical fitness for over 10 years. I love to run and weight lift most days of the week. I also love to do yoga at night to calm me down before bed. I have always had a love for baked goods. My mom made a great dessert every Sunday and made them upon request growing up. I have always been really well at expressing my thoughts and feelings. I love to express a lot of my spiritual feelings with friends and family. As a young girl, I worked really hard to have a great relationship with my Father in Heaven. I have felt His presence from the time I was 8 and currently still feel his love and desire for me to become closer to Him. I desire to be a missionary as well as help others understand His love for all of His children. I find that being friendly, understanding and being compassionate to everyone is the best example of His son, Jesus Christ. I strive to follow His teachings. I also stumble with all of it. I'm so grateful for the atonement and repentance when I'm in need of change of heart and a compassionate spirit. I find life to be so beautiful and I'm grateful everyday for the experiences I have. I am a wife, mother, daughter of God, writer, runner, baker, and an imperfect being striving to be the best me.

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