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Leading in love and righteousness is something I try to obtain every single day as a mother. 

I think of how Jesus Christ would teach and love all the children in the world. 

I see Him as playful, encourages curiosity, leading with His example, and loves them perfectly.

I think of His example in my life and how I want to be more like Him as a mother. 

Allowing Free Agency

It’s difficult for me at times to allow my children to completely use their agency. I’m wanting to raise them to be good abiding citizens. I desire for them to grow into who they want to become and love their God and neighbor. 

While I teach them these traits and ways in our home I also need to allow them to act and think for themselves to grow.

At times I get frustrated with their choices but I know it’s patience and learning that I need to grow from as well.

Choosing Good Agency (because we want to)

I was complimented by a friend recently with a way I responded to Ronen during a play date.

Our kids were playing on some steep rocks on a hill and we asked them to get down before they got hurt. 

Ronen chose to keep climbing the rocks. He didn’t think it was that big of a deal. He also wanted to show everyone he could climb to the top.

I walked closer up to him and spoke louder saying, “Ronen I know you want to play and that’s fine but I hope you can use your agency wisely. I know you are a good climber but I would be so sad if you got hurt.”

My friend turned to me and said, “Wow, you encourage him to use his agency in this. I would be upset if my children didn’t listen to me. I can see that you want to raise him to be his best.”

I don’t always have moments like this. I want to have my children use their agency and to use it for what can bring out the best versions of themselves.

Trying to Let Go of The Reigns 

I don’t always allow my children to think and use their agency for themselves. Haha.

I am pretty linear thinking. When I start a task I want to get it done.

When it comes to my children doing their homework, doing chores, or even playing, I like to have a schedule for these.

I feel like it has become negative for me. I get disappointed if they don’t want to do things my way.

I don’t want them to do things always my way. I know I’m not always right. 

The past couple of days I have been trying on different thoughts with the great thought in mind, “to lead in love and righteousness.”

These thoughts have been,

-allow them to choose how they want to spend their time after school

-allow them to learn how to solve more problems when they argue

-allow more moments to teach in love and be an example of it

As I have had these thoughts in my mind I have seen how much I have wanted to control a lot of what we do in the day.

Love them through all their choices

In this phase of my life I am wanting my idea of leading in love in righteousness to allow them to make choices and love them through it. I also want to help where I can. Allow them to feel what they feel and just be present and a comfort for them.

It’s not easy for me to slow down the control train when I want them to grow up to be the “smartest, cleanest, or “best” kids around. I can already believe that in them. 

I want to love them for who they are and see them as the best in who they can become. 

I would like more of the thoughts to love them the most, like Jesus Christ and lead them to be more righteous, be a little better each day and be the best person they can be for themselves with the guide of the Holy Ghost. 

All I want to do is lead with the example of Jesus Christ, love them through all their choices, and teach them with my best self how to be their best selves.

Little by little, growing each day, experience after experience will help me grow in this as much as I want to teach them these traits.

I mean, how can we go wrong with loving our children for who they are right now and who they will become? 

It’s great to feel that love. 

About Author

My name is Brianna Marshall. I was born in Dayton, Ohio into a Air Force family. We moved to Colorado Springs, CO when I was 5 years old and lived there till I moved off to College to Orem, Utah in 2007. I was raised into The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints. I'm still actively practicing the same faith today. I graduated from Utah Valley University with a Bachelors in Communications. I was married to my husband Dom in 2010 in the San Diego Temple. Dom and I have two children, one a boy, named Ronen, and a girl, named Ryen. I have been in and out of teaching physical fitness for over 10 years. I love to run and weight lift most days of the week. I also love to do yoga at night to calm me down before bed. I have always had a love for baked goods. My mom made a great dessert every Sunday and made them upon request growing up. I have always been really well at expressing my thoughts and feelings. I love to express a lot of my spiritual feelings with friends and family. As a young girl, I worked really hard to have a great relationship with my Father in Heaven. I have felt His presence from the time I was 8 and currently still feel his love and desire for me to become closer to Him. I desire to be a missionary as well as help others understand His love for all of His children. I find that being friendly, understanding and being compassionate to everyone is the best example of His son, Jesus Christ. I strive to follow His teachings. I also stumble with all of it. I'm so grateful for the atonement and repentance when I'm in need of change of heart and a compassionate spirit. I find life to be so beautiful and I'm grateful everyday for the experiences I have. I am a wife, mother, daughter of God, writer, runner, baker, and an imperfect being striving to be the best me.

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