Remember hearing this phrase, “Just be patient?”
Remember hearing it when you were going through the store with your mom wondering when you would go back home?
Or when you are waiting to get a promotion for a job that you have been working really hard in?
Or hearing, “good things come to those who wait?”
I know I have heard these things many many times myself. It’s also something I’m not crazy to hear when I’m doing my best to be patient. Haha
I was thinking about this phrase quite a bit today when it came to the way my children were behaving with two experiences.
- We were at the park today and one of my kids was not playing very nice with someone.
- During our family Come Follow Me lesson, both the kids chose to play and be rowdy during a time they know we are trying to listen to me teaching or talk about Jesus Christ.
During both of these experiences I knew that I was allowing myself to be disappointed in them. I could hear my thoughts say, “Just be patient.”
While we were at the park and one of my children hurt another kid, I was surprised by this behavior. As I went over to them to ask what was wrong and what happened, I could see the sadness in my child’s eyes. I could see they didn’t do it on purpose but they hurt the other child and didn’t know how to respond.
I felt the spirit in that moment prompt me to love my child even more. I shared how much I love them and want to help them understand the boundaries of others and make sure the person they hurt is ok.
I heard the phrase in my head, “Be patient, they are still learning.”
While we were having Come Follow Me and both kids were running around and choosing to not listen, I could hear that voice again, “Choose to be patient.”
I understand sitting down to focus during scripture study or gospel study can be a bit challenging for children. We do our best to incorporate examples they can relate to. I’m starting to feel that defeat after teaching a lesson for so long and I’m not getting through to them.
Multiple Attempts of Patience
I liked listening to the podcast from Jody Moore called, “How to Make Achieving Your Goals Easier.” In this podcast she explained that when we are wanting to progress or become better at something we have to keep trying with multiple attempts.
She mentioned in one of her previous jobs as a salesman, she would make around 150 calls a day to sell someone a product. After that many calls she might not get any sales, she might also just get one, but she gave her effort and would keep calling until she did get through to selling to at least one person the product.
After hearing this podcast I reminded myself that I can keep putting in effort to teach my children in any lesson; life lessons, church lessons, school lessons.
When I am teaching I want to teach with love and understand their needs through the lesson.
I could feel the spirit prompt me to, “be patient with what my children are absorbing. They are learning at small increments. Keep putting in that effort. They will see your love for the Lord and what you know to be true.”
Both of my spiritual promptings today were very comforting. However, as the day was coming to an end and I thought of these experiences I almost had thoughts of failure. I felt like I wasn’t achieving my goals as a mother of leading them in love and righteousness.
The Spirit is Our Guide
I came across a scripture in Doctrine and Covenants 105:40 that I feel like was great for my thoughts. I believe that I allow some thoughts of mine to get in the way of the peace and spirit I can feel. This scripture reminded me that the Spirit is what brings peace and reminds me of what is right and good.
40. And make proposals for peace unto those who have smitten you, according to the voice of the Spirit which is in you, and all things work together for your good.
My thoughts can be what “smites” me. I know both of these experiences were helping me to learn patience as a mother. Mainly for me to learn patience in how I am wanting to teach them on the playground and in the home.
Be Patient With Yourself
I need to be patient with myself. I won’t always do exactly the right thing. I will sometimes not be the best teacher or have the best day as a mom.
What I found most comforting from that phrase than hearing it other times, was “Just be patient. They are still learning and growing. Even if they don’t learn everything the way you would hope, they will learn from your patience and love.”
It was very peaceful to remind myself that I can be patient with me as a mom and know that I am doing the very best I can. I also handled those experiences exactly how I wanted to in those moments.
I allowed my thoughts, the ones that felt like I was being smitten to have me believe I’m not doing my best and they could be so much more respectful or well behaved.
But really, what I want for more peace at the playground or in the home is to have peace with the way I respond to them.
I want to be patient with them the way I am working on being patient with myself.
I know it will take multiple attempts to achieve this. What I achieved from these experiences was being able to follow the promptings of the spirit and continue to teach with love and guide in truth.
Just be patient with yourself. Each attempt is an opportunity to grow. It also is so much more peaceful when you are loving and being graceful to yourself in the process. The kids feel that love as well.